So for those of you who read Saturday’s post, you’ll know that I finally stood up for myself and told [womanizer] that I wouldn’t be seeing him again because of how terribly he’s treated me in the past. If you didn’t read it, check it out really quick HERE for a little background on today’s post. No need for me to go into it again, other than I was really proud of myself. In fact, I was pretty much walking around with my head held high and in a good mood over the whole thing. On that post you may have also seen the anonymous comments left for me, it’s just too bad you couldn’t see the shocked look on my face. Jaw. On. Floor.
Note: There’s some language in this post-if you’re offended by that please stop reading here. If you’re not, enjoy the drama.
Basically it was another girl writing in telling me that she’s been watching me for about two years, because we were dating the same guy. What. The. Hell? WE WERE DATING THE SAME GUY! I never knew about her, but apparently she knew about me, and apparently he treated her the same way.
I am shocked. He always just said he was working two jobs, or really busy, I didn’t expect him to be out seeing other people and not telling me. There were promises made about always telling the truth and being honest with each other, no matter what we were up to. Call me naive, but I took his word and trusted it.
I am shocked. That makes two guys in a row! How does this keep happening to me? I swear to god that I’m just a regular little person in this world, but lately my life seems like a scene from a Soap Opera… At least it provides me with good blogging material right?
I am appalled. Here’s the part where I add the following: WHAT AN ASSHOLE.
In case you missed it, here’s what she said, and what I was thinking when I read it.
He told me he didn’t know about his assignment, and that it just happened too fast to let me know. Yeah, what a douche. I should have realized that was a lie, but even through my annoyance at it, I felt a connection with him and took him at his word.
Again, what he told me and what happened were apparently two different things. I was told that he was only in town for three days! That’s why we only got together once, and then it was just phone calls after that. Also, he was probably saying all the same things on the phone to us both! What a bastard!
He was ready to start a relationship with us both! He was telling us both he wanted something serious! WHAT A BASTARD. I don’t think there is any limit to the number of times I can call him a bastard, in fact I think we should contact Merriam-Websters and have them change the definition from “an illegitimate child” to “[womanizer]: See also, dick, asshole, prick, fucktard, and whiney little bitch.”
So I’m a little child who doesn’t know what I want? Yes, I didn’t know what I wanted back then, mainly because the guy I was dating was gone all the time and treating me like shit. He can’t expect to come home and jump right into a serious relationship (with multiple women, but that’s another story) and expect me to be ready right away when he’s been blowing me off 80% of the time. He can’t expect me to just forget all the times he stood me up. Normal people date for a while (you know, in person) before deciding to be serious with each other.
What I LOVE about that statement is the way I signed my email to him Friday night, before I knew any of this. After telling him I deserved someone more worthy than him, someone who was a decent human being, I said “I finally know what I want, and I wont settle for less.” It doesn’t get any more perfect than this.
A: Karma’s a bitch.
B: August was just about when he came knocking at my door again too, then had a total break down and said he couldn’t handle a relationship and said he started seeing a shrink. The guy was actually telling me he couldn’t date me until he was healed (as per his shrink) but that he wanted me to wait for him to be ready. That’s when I finally said “Fuck this noise” and started moving on with my life. I’m so grateful that I did!
Wow, it really shows a man’s character to see that when you present him with the option of not having sex, he disappears. This shows what he really wants you for, the sex. I never want to be with another person who uses me for just sex, in fact, I’d kind of like to cut off his balls..
Oh. Enough taking the high road, the dude already had a hard time getting it up. He blamed it on shrapnel or something, which could be, but it doesn’t change the fact that the boy is still a limp noodle. Maybe it’s really guilt, since he’s treating all of these different women like trash. Serves him right.
I knew who she was when I saw her anon comments. It’s funny, I know because the first fight [womanizer] and I ever had was over her and I playing that stupid “Own Your Friends” game on Myspace. It doesn’t take gifts to remember that he was upset that we were both buying him in that stupid game, and at the time he just told me that she had been a friend with benefit in the past that he was only friends with now and he hardly saw her because she still had feelings for him that he didn’t return. I should have seen right through it then. Asshole.
I wrote her back, sympathizing with her and offering her support, and she has since emailed me trying to explain why she is still waiting for him even after all of this bullshit. She said the Universe/Gods/Guides are telling her he’s her soul mate and she needs to stick it out. Unfortunately at this time I don’t think I can be that support for her. The Universe told me to stick it out with him, and look where it got me? I thought I was going to marry him and be with him forever, and it was honestly a feeling I felt I was getting from the powers that be, but I was wrong. So very wrong.
Though I had moved on before I found this out, it doesn’t change the fact that it was a serious blow to me. That’s two guys in a row that were liars and cheats, two guys I settled for when I should have been out finding someone real.
Two fakes that can really go f*ck themselves.
I wasted just over two years of my life with these jackasses, and I’m done wasting time. The next guy is going to be Mr. Right. Not Mr. Right Now. If they can’t make the grade, I’m done. If I catch them in a lie, they’re gone. No second chances, no more bullshit. I will not go through this again.
Sorry, I just can’t do it right now. I appreciate all of the nice things you’ve said, and I’m sorry you have to go through it too… I just need time to step back from the whole thing and breath. For now, all I can do is wish for you the healing and strength that is due you.
*Post edited on 9/11/12: Check out my post called Ex Anonymity in Blogging to find out why!