What I Want in a Lover

Recently, I was digging through the archives and reviewing blogs from the first year of blogging.  I came across a post talking about what I wanted in a lover that was written in 2009.  At that time I had been encouraged to write it down by the guy I was seeing (Womanizer)-but I was interested to see how much that list holds true today.  So here’s my newly revised list, not much changed from years gone by, but with a new perspective that years of age and experience brings.
  1. My best friend.  Someone who can do just about anything with me and not get sick of it.
  2. The person who can look at me first thing in the morning with no make-up and messy hair and tell me I’m still the most beautiful woman they’ve ever seen.
  3. Someone who won’t cage me, but instead take my hand and run with me, and settle with me when we are ready to settle together.
  4. “Someone dorky, because I’m a dork and I want dorky children.” – Alanis
  5. They should be sensible and  have a good head on their shoulders, but still not afraid to act silly and do child-like things sometimes.
  6. Someone goal-oriented who chases after what they want in life.
  7. A man who will woo me for the rest of my life, and make me fall in love all over again often.
  8. Someone who doesn’t feel the need to buy my love, but instead shows me often that he thinks of me by leaving me notes, picking up something he knows I need or that reminds him of me, etc.  I don’t need diamonds and roses-just to know he thought of me.
  9. He should love the outdoors, and want to camp, hike, or be outside with me.
  10. Should be good with kids.  I have godkids/nieces/nephews that visit.
  11. Passion and fire.  He should be the kind who will grab me and kiss me like he’s never wanted to kiss anyone that badly in his life.
  12. He should want to try new things with me.
  13. Someone I can have long, in-depth conversations with for hours, but can also just sit with me in silence and be comfortable.
  14. An animal lover.
  15. A travel companion who will go with me to explore this great big world.
  16. Chivalry is not dead.  If he opens doors for me it is a major plus.
  17. Someone who makes me a priority.  Everything doesn’t have to be about me, we can have our own space and things, but I should still be important to them.
  18. He’s going to have to get along with my friends and family, as I expect to need to get along with his.
  19. One who loves me even when we’re fighting, and who can accept me when I’m being a little crazy.
  20. A man not afraid to show his sensitive side.
  21. A Giver.  Give and take is important, but I am a giver and have dated too many takers.  I want to date a giver so we can work on give and take together.
  22. A romantic.  Like if he hears a song that reminds him of me he brings it home and plays it and dances with me in the living room.  (My daddy used to do this with my momma)
  23. Someone who wants to only sleep with just me for the rest of his life. No cheaters.
  24. A person who pushes me to better myself, but still loves me when I fall short.
  25. Honesty.  Honesty should be number 1.
  26. Someone who has faith in something. Be it the mystery of the universe, love, science, etc.  Just believe in something-and love that you believe in something.
  27. Someone who doesn’t need me, but instead wants me.  I don’t want to be needed, but I want to be wanted.
  28. Someone who supports my creativity and allows me to nurture it into something bigger.
So it came down to a few things needed to be reworded and shortened, but all in all these are the things that are most important to me in the person I plan to spend the rest of my life with.  No one is perfect, and none of these require perfection-just someone wonderful.

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Angie is a single lady who just bought her first home in a cute neighborhood in Salt Lake City, UT. She works full time, goes to school part time, and manages three (soon to be four) blogs. In her free time she enjoys hosting parties, decorating, creating art, crafting, reading, writing, good coffee, good wine and beer, and trying new things.
  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/06054773556962984796 jessica

    i agree with so many things on this list and a lot of it is exactly what i'm wanting in my man. right now i've decided to stop looking. i'm hanging out and having fun, i don't wanna complicate things right now with a relationship but if it happens i will gladly except it.

    #27 is a huge one for me. i want him to want me, all the time. if he doesn't then it ain't gonna work…

    great post, ang.

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395479603321966395 Miss Traci

    This is the perfect list. I hope you find someone who is deserving of you!!!

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/04191594419172393727 Kenzie Smith

    Those are all amazing and wonderful things!

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/01005584805379179415 Linda H.

    This is a great list. I especially like #24.

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/14139782278599012294 Cerise

    I think this is a fantastic list. I like 22. My dad used to do that too…even with my sister and I. 15 is great too. My husband and I are really big on having adventures. I really knew he was my one after we made a 2 week road trip from Texas to Boston and back.
    Hope you find your one.

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/01898921671895123053 Beth W

    These are great traits for not just a lover, but a friend. And although the list is long (well, longer than mine, years ago), it's also incredibly realistic AND definitely worth waiting for. :)

  • https://www.blogger.com/profile/01080646739237808750 Katherine

    I agree with so many things on that list. I am married to my best friend, and I feel lucky to have that.