There is always a certain sadness that laces around the edges of the holiday season when you’re alone and don’t want to be. No matter how much time you spend with friends and family, or how excited you are to celebrate each coming holiday, being single during the holidays lingers there in the back of your mind. How nice would it be to spend time with a significant other during this time? Wouldn’t it be lovely to curl up by a warm fire and snuggle with someone that makes your stomach do somersaults and your heart go pitter patter? To sing along to crooner’s Christmas albums with someone that made you feel as warm and cozy on the inside as a steaming mug of cocoa does as you sip it? It would-and knowing it would seems to add a little touch of longing and heartache, even during the happiest of times. At least it does for me.
Unfortunately about 90% of the holidays in my adult life have been celebrated single, and much as I would have liked to have someone there (and still would), I’ve learned to cope. Many of you have followed my dating adventures, and years like this year-where I’m single but still longing for someone, are even harder.
What’s even worse than being single during the holidays while wanting someone, is navigating family events where you inevitably get questions like “Are you seeing someone?” or “When will you be getting married/having kids/settling down” etc… Those are rough, and I feel like just responding with “Did you really just ask that?” or maybe even “Here’s my card, you can read all about it on my blog.” Actually, that second one is a great idea-I’ll have to keep that in mind. Where did I pack away my business cards? Hmmm…
So, I thought I’d pull from my personal experience and offer some tips for those of you who may also be experiencing this situation.
Tips for Enjoying Being Single During the Holidays
Throw a Party
Personally, I’ve heard “you’re not alone, you’ve got me” a hundred times when lamenting the fact that I’m “alone” during the holidays. While it’s very much appreciated that I have the love of friends and family, it’s just not the same. I want one person that is my person, someone just for me, to love me and hold me in front of the Christmas lights.
However, even though it’s not the same, filling my home with friends and family definitely helps. There’s less time to think about how you’d like to be snuggled up in bed with a lover when you’re busy planning, cleaning, decorating, and then celebrating with a few of your favorite people. I threw a party Saturday night, and I’ll have to say I didn’t think about the dude I miss once throughout the party-there was just so much to be distracted with and to enjoy. It was wonderful.
Enjoy Making the Decisions
While it’s nice to have a partner in crime, it’s also nice to just have things be the way you want them to be. You get to choose how the tree is decorated, what food you munch on, which Christmas movie to Netflix, etc. There’s a certain beauty in being able to call all the shots and only focus on what you want and need. Why not enjoy that now? Chances are in the future you’ll meet someone and your holiday with that person will be full of compromise, but for now-you don’t have to budge on a darn thing. It’s all about you baby!
Spend Some Time Away
Sometimes it can be a bit depressing staying at home whilst everyone else is going off to see their other half’s family. So, why not get yourself a holiday home which you can up and go to whenever you want?! Holiday homes For Sale North Yorkshire are perfect for experiencing those quintessential Christmas festivities, even if you don’t have a partner to go with. Take the kids, take your mates, or even go with your parents. Fill the place up with all of your favourite people and imagine you’re a million miles away from any of your worries. It’s always good to get away, and even better if you don’t have to book anything!
Take Yourself on a Date
If you’re single you’re essentially dating yourself, so why not treat yourself like you’d expect a significant other to treat you? Take yourself out for dinner. I know, it sounds scary doing something like that all for yourself, but there’s something extremely empowering about it too. Not ready to face a restaurant alone? Try a movie, it’s dark and people are focusing on that not you. Even still, if you want to avoid public, take a drive up the canyon to view the city lights from a higher vantage point or go for a walk through the lights at a park. Marvel in how lovely it is to be alive and in a position to love yourself.
Buy Yourself a Holiday Gift
That’s right-splurge on yourself. Is there something you’ve been putting off buying for a little while? It’s time to treat yourself. You’d hope your partner would give you something meaningful, so if you’re your own partner, do it! Go pick up something that makes you feel sexy and alive, like some cute lingerie (hey, all you need is to sit and have a cozy glass of wine in a silk nightie by yourself-it’s a great feeling) or a nice bottle of wine. Buy yourself something to further growth in the upcoming year-maybe an eCourse, a vacation, or some tools to build your blog/business online. Just get something that helps you feel special and empowered. A vacation package could make a very special gift that you can give to yourself, and you surely deserve one. You can consider taking some time off from your regular routine to visit some of the exotic places, such as the Galapagos Islands. You may as well consider booking a cruise on a luxury vessel, such as the mc Elite Galapagos, or other cruise ships on the island that can ensure a memorable vacation for you.
Skip the Romantic Comedies
Skip the romantic comedies or Lifetime Christmas specials this holiday season and opt for the less lovey holiday films. You don’t need to be watching all that kissing under the mistletoe and thinking about how much you want it-instead opt for some classic holiday movies or movies about strong independent women (or men if you’re a man). Alternatively, don’t watch anything Christmassy at all! What you could do, however, is download some interesting movies from different parts of the world through torrents. However, for this, you would need a thorough knowledge of torrenting files. You could read up on various articles about the same to get more idea about it. Something like Casino Royale can also take your mind off being single for the holidays and give you something very entertaining to watch. Action movies, gambling movies, and anything thrilling is a great distraction. If you’re interested, here is the list of the best 21 gambling movies out there. It’ll keep you entertained for hours.
If you want to stick to Christmas movies, here are some of my recommendations. A few of them have a bit of romance, but they don’t focus on it.
Heartwarming Christmas Movies:
- Miracle on 34th Street (1947)
- How the Grinch Stole Christmas (1966)
- It’s a Wonderful Life (1947)
- A Christmas Carol (1984)
- White Christmas (1954)
- A Charlie Brown Christmas (1964)
- Rudolf the Red Nosed Reindeer (1964)
- Frosty the Snowman (1969)
- Santa Clause is Coming to Town (1970)
Funny Christmas Movies:
- A Christmas Story (1983)
- The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992)
- Home Alone (1990)
- Scrooged (1988)
- National Lampoons Christmas Vacation (1989)
- The Santa Clause (1994)
- Jingle All the Way (1996)
Scary Christmas Movies:
Bake and Decorate Cookies
Go ahead and make up a batch of delicious holiday cookies and decorate them. Share them with your neighbors and/or friends or eat them all yourself-we won’t judge.
Whatever you do this holiday season, remember that you are awesome and try to enjoy your own company.
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