Have you been single for a while? Are you waiting for a knight in shining armor or a damsel in distress? Have you been through a breakup and emerged the other side? If so, the prospect of dating can be daunting. If you haven’t been on a date for years, you may wonder how on earth you’re going to muddle through. Don’t panic. It’s perfectly natural to be nervous about any first date. These dating tips will hopefully help you to navigate your way through the stormy seas of dating and find the perfect partner.
Meeting New People
Are you working all hours of the day? Do you hang out with the same people all the time? Are you finding it tough to meet new people? If so, it’s time to try a different tact. Online dating is a very popular means of expanding your social circle these days. If you’re new to it, it can seem like a minefield. There are hundreds of dating sites around, and many people have reservations about this kind of dating. The reality is that Internet dating can be hugely successful. But there are pitfalls. If you’re setting up an online profile, never give out personal information. By all means, describe yourself and add a photograph. But never include your address, phone number or bank details. If you get on with somebody, and you want to exchange numbers, you can do this via private messages. Check the privacy settings on your profile. Filter your results to ensure that anyone you connect with is a suitable match.
If you want to meet somebody in person who you’ve been chatting to online, make sure friends and family know where you are. Choose a public place to meet, and carry your phone with you. Make sure you have a lift home sorted if you are going for a drink. You may think that you know the person really well, but you can never be too careful.
Internet dating is not the only way of meeting new people. Ask friends or colleagues to arrange dates with their single friends, or take up a new hobby. Learn another language or try your hand at baking, dancing, or quizzing. The more people you meet, the higher the chance of finding the one.
Choosing a Location for the First Date
First dates are a unique experience. Most of us have tales of dream dates and disasters along the way. When it comes to choosing a location for your date, try and go for something fun. Think about mutual interests and passions. Do you like art or cinema? Are you both into gaming? Are you intrepid adventurers who love an adrenaline rush? Do you enjoy cooking or have a penchant for fine wines? Try and choose a setting, which makes you both feel comfortable. Dinner dates are a very popular choice, but they’re not for everyone. At a fancy restaurant, you may not feel like you can relax and be yourself. If this is the case, opt for something like a trip to zoo or research theme parks in the area. Take a picnic to the park or go for a bike ride. You don’t have to go all-out to impress on a first date. Often, the simplest ideas are the best. If you’re going for a drink, go steady. It’s tempting to have a little too much if you feel nervous. Pace yourself and if you feel a little tipsy, order a soft drink.
If you’re getting ready for a first date, you’re probably experiencing a mixture of nerves and excitement. If you’re in a hurry to get somewhere after finishing work, try and plan an outfit in advance. Think about what you want to wear and what kind of ensemble is suitable for the date. If you’re going to the beach or the climbing wall, you don’t want to be dressed up to the nines. Go for something, which makes you feel both comfortable and confident. If you’re not happy with what you’re wearing, this will affect your mood. Keep things casual for an informal date. If you’re going to the theater or you’re having drinks at a bar, you can go for something a little more formal. Make an effort with your hair, and have a shower so that you smell clean and fresh.
Most people get anxious when they’re making their way to a date. Try and stay calm. Breathe deeply and give yourself plenty of time to get to your destination.
What Happens Next?
What happens next will depend on how your date went, and what you think of the other person. Sometimes, you may hit it off with a date and feel like you’ve known them for ages. In other cases, you may know within seconds that you’re not a perfect match. Love at first sight is not a given. Most of the time, it takes a few dates to really get to know somebody and determine whether there could be some kind of future. Take things slowly. There’s no rush. Often, nerves can get the better of us on a first date, and we don’t show off our true personalities until we feel more comfortable around others. If you are interested in a second date, try and gauge if the other person is keen. If they’re not, try not to despair. You may have to ensure some disappointing dates to find a match. Don’t panic and stay positive. You’ll probably find somebody when you’re least expecting it.
Most of us dream of settling down. Sadly, in most cases, it’s not as simple as a dream date walking through the door. If you’re struggling to find an ideal match, try and increase the size of your social circle. Hang out with different groups of friends, and take up new hobbies. It may also be worth trying online dating, especially if you have a hectic schedule. Once you’ve got a date lined up, think carefully about locations. Go for something laid-back and chilled out if you’re feeling anxious. Take your time to get ready, and plan what you’re going to wear in advance. Keep calm, and enjoy yourself. Relax, have fun and be confident.
What are your best dating tips?