Living with your partner, whether you’re married or not, or have a family or not, can definitely bring it’s own challenge when it comes to maintaining a close bond. You both have your own lives, interests, and hobbies. There are jobs to go to, bills to pay, errands to run, and a million things to do. With or without kids in your life, it’s easy to get caught up in the mundane day-to-day and not take time to strengthen your bond with each other. However, if you have kids it’s easy to allow the children to become the be all and end all of your life. While they, and other responsibilities are important, it’s vital to spend time on your relationship too. Read on for some fresh suggestion of what you can do for each other to help forge and strengthen your bond.
Read The Same Book
An excellent way to forge a connection between a couple is to start your own mini book club. The idea is that if you read the same book, you will have something exciting and meaningful to talk about each night. Whether it’s over the dinner table, once you put the kids to bed, or just as you’re winding down the day together; a little conversation can go a long way.
While you might be lucky and have similar tastes in literature. Other couples may need a bit more help from the bestseller list to choose something that will appeal to both of them. Aim for a fiction read and try and stay away from parenting books as you want this to be about the two of you and not the kids.
Strengthen Your Bond AND Personal Hygiene
Something else that you can do to forge physical intimacy between a couple is to help them out with a beauty or grooming job. It is intimate as you are in their personal space. It also fosters trust, as you are doing something for them that they would usually do themselves. Ask your partner to paint your toenails for you, help your partner with their hair, or you could give your man a luxurious hot towel shave.
Give Your Partner a Massage
Along the same line is a massage. We often think these have a sensual connotation, and they can do, but it can also be a beautiful act of service for someone that is tired out or stressed. Around my house, my hands ache from typing all day and my feet and ache terribly if I have to work a shift at my second job where I am on my feet. The Boyfriend takes care to rub my wrists in the evenings, and on special occasions I get a foot rub. It’s never a very long massage, but it goes a long way.
Relaxing the muscles is a good way to get the body and mind to relax, which everyone needs to do from time to time when they have kids! You can even buy some massage oil or hot stones to enhance the experience.
Help Out Around the House
Something else that you can do to show your spouse you love them is to give them a hand with that job they want to be done. Okay, so it’s not the most romantic of evenings, but getting the wardrobe cleared out or the garden spruced up today will help them to be more relaxed and it will benefit you both. They also get to see that what they want is important to you, which is never a bad thing.
Something else that is a good idea is a regular set date nights. Even if you see each other on a regular basis, setting aside time that is just for the two of you is always a good idea. The Boyfriend and I recently decided to a date night on a weekly basis, and we take turns paying for it. The idea is to spend time together that is specifically devoted to each other. Not on our phones, not catching up on emails, and not over-stressing about other things in our lives.
If you have kids, get friends or grandparents to babysit and treat yourself to a nice meal and movie once a month without the littles. It’ll go a long way to help strengthen your bond, and it’ll keep you much more sane!
How do you strengthen your bond?
This can help you keep sight of the relationship and how it was before the kids came along. Which is necessary for your happiness, and actually that of the kid’s. Remember happy parents means happy kids for the most part so everybody wins.